It’s not easy to say “Sorry”

When we have arguments or disagreements it’s not always easy to accept the mistake or apologize.We carry the fear of losing face to that person.This is quite a normal feeling.How much ever we believe it’s better to apologize it’s not always easy.

Similarly with kids they could have fights with their siblings or peers.

Fights and arguments have nothing to do with age.

A child too carries an ego just like an adult does.

It’s ok to not force yourself to apologize or even ask your child to apologize to someone.

Damage is done and you have realized it – that’s what is important.

If saying sorry comes easy to you ,great ,go ahead.

If not,what do you do?

To begin with,relax,take a deep breath and then slowly entangle the tangled emotions in your mind.

Damage comes with a cost.If you can’t apologize the other better option is “Repair it “.

Make an effort to do something special and reconcile the differences.

With kids it can be more challenging.Let them know how they treat others comes with a cost and they are always responsible for repairs when they do damage. Allow them to CHOOSE their own repair, which makes them feel good, and also reminds them every-time such situation arises.

It’s highly possible your child will not agree to do the repair especially when he\she feels more hurt\offended.

Healing will be your next level – listen to your child,listen to your child’s upsets,build the trust and acknowledge their feelings.They also want to be heard and trusted before they step up to repair.

This assures them that you care, they aren’t alone, and it’s ok to feel those old emotions and move past them.

This way you’re supporting your child to heal from their past unhappiness and at the same time you are also educating them how important it is to repair current relationships.

Be there always in their life for problem-solving, help them work through their feelings and fears, and assure them .They should not sidestep the difficulty, but handle the problem themselves whether it requires offering an apology or making amends in a more concrete way.

Keep BLAMES outside your household.

“One can always come up with better solutions from a state of acceptance than a state of blame”.

People who take responsibility in any given situation are people who are willing to be different and they surely stand out.

That’s the kind of kid we would all want to raise.

Their adulthood gets much sorted when these values are inculcated at a raw age.They understand to value and be responsible.

They can lead by example and be the change.