Exams don’t define personality!

Well we all know in advance that in the coming year our child is going to appear for the 10th or 12th boards. Years that have been over hyped not saying they are not crucial but it’s become more life threatening.

Parents and school behave as if it’s a do or die situation more so because of peer pressure amongst parents as well as kids.

So most common questions in every get together or party or a function – so how’s it going?

What’s the plan? What next? We aren’t sure what is stored for us in the next one hour but we are expected to explain what we are going to do in the next year. It does not end there. Loads of advises and comparisons follow.

It’s good to talk about it. What you talk and how you talk is what matters.

Parents, Teachers and children surely need counseling for a smooth year and better results.

Do we talk to children about fall back plans?? It’s good to be positive but it’s important to be practical too.

What if we (important word, sense of security) don’t get there, what’s plan B and what’s plan C.

Not only bad performance, an unforeseen incident or anything that comes your way and hampers the plan A, how do we cope as a family… it can just be a bad day too.

It’s not the end of the world, there is a tomorrow waiting. There is nothing like a last chance till you choose to give up.

Coping with failure is not easy, mind is the gadget and one needs to learn to switch off from the failure and think towards achieving it next time.

As the exam dates are nearing (this can be six months in advance too) cable connection get cut, no internet, no parties, no social life…the house looks more like a morgue. Do we really have to be so melodramatric? every phone call conversation is about exams; the world around has come to a standstill. everything gets postponed to post exams…Can’t it be less hyped. are you trying to reduce pressure or add pressure??

Don’t make it an unpleasant journey or a harrowing time for your child.

Don’t make the boards a yardstick or a mirror to evaluate one’s personality.

Teach them, stand by them to take setbacks in their stride.

Parents and teachers fail too when a child underperforms let’s not forget that…

Grades can never snatch the individual qualities of the child.

Change your mindset.

Best wishes to all.