Relationships fail if there are expectations.

Expectations means chances of disappointments.

One can be under pressure all times and the mind would display a status frustrated or miserable.

A realistic approach\expectation becomes the secret ingredient to happiness unlocking the stress in our lives.

We can only control if the expectation is ours not when it’s theirs.

Some just can’t be pleased and to keep up to them we end up losing our self.

Is it really worth it –

“There are going to be days when you won’t have the energy or drive to get out of bed. There are going to be days when you’re going to want to give up – give up on love, life, or school. The thing is, you’re not allowed to give up. You were given a life and you’re supposed to live it. The truth is the seventy or eighty years that you’re given isn’t long enough to do the things you’re supposed to do. Sure, you’re gonna hit a few bumps along the way, but you’ve got to pick yourself up and move on. Life is unpredictable and things might not always work out the way you want them to, but that’s no reason to give up. You’re here for a reason and someday when you’re not expecting it, you’re going to discover your reason for being here. And when that does happen, your life will never be the same again.”

I have walked ahead too much to turn back but I can stop and wait for you to start afresh.

Childhood friends/old friends are different,they are very special.We have had so much fun then that we didn’t really realise that we were creating memories.Talking to them,you rediscover yourself,it’s a complete de stress session.When you are tired of making sensible constructive conversation you remember your childhood friends with whom you don’t need to think but just blah blah blah, giggle and have a complete non sensical conversation.In today’s stressful life we need to have these conversations regularly to keep our mind clear and healthy.Never let go these contagious friends from your life they need you as much as you need them.If you lose track of time talking to someone that means you are with the right person.Reunions are being heard more often now -you all will agree.Its healthy and it should continue….Similarly we miss our holidays with our cousins,they are all scattered and have different annual holidays.We see their kids grow up only in pictures…Hope we see change there as well…

Well we all know in advance that in the coming year our child is going to appear for the 10th or 12th boards. Years that have been over hyped not saying they are not crucial but it’s become more life threatening.

Parents and school behave as if it’s a do or die situation more so because of peer pressure amongst parents as well as kids.

So most common questions in every get together or party or a function – so how’s it going?

What’s the plan? What next? We aren’t sure what is stored for us in the next one hour but we are expected to explain what we are going to do in the next year. It does not end there. Loads of advises and comparisons follow.

It’s good to talk about it. What you talk and how you talk is what matters.

Parents, Teachers and children surely need counseling for a smooth year and better results.

Do we talk to children about fall back plans?? It’s good to be positive but it’s important to be practical too.

What if we (important word, sense of security) don’t get there, what’s plan B and what’s plan C.

Not only bad performance, an unforeseen incident or anything that comes your way and hampers the plan A, how do we cope as a family… it can just be a bad day too.

It’s not the end of the world, there is a tomorrow waiting. There is nothing like a last chance till you choose to give up.

Coping with failure is not easy, mind is the gadget and one needs to learn to switch off from the failure and think towards achieving it next time.

As the exam dates are nearing (this can be six months in advance too) cable connection get cut, no internet, no parties, no social life…the house looks more like a morgue. Do we really have to be so melodramatric? every phone call conversation is about exams; the world around has come to a standstill. everything gets postponed to post exams…Can’t it be less hyped. are you trying to reduce pressure or add pressure??

Don’t make it an unpleasant journey or a harrowing time for your child.

Don’t make the boards a yardstick or a mirror to evaluate one’s personality.

Teach them, stand by them to take setbacks in their stride.

Parents and teachers fail too when a child underperforms let’s not forget that…

Grades can never snatch the individual qualities of the child.

Change your mindset.

Best wishes to all.

Having a boy and a girl doesn’t make a complete family or a perfect family.

A family with a single child or children of the same gender are not an incomplete family.

A single child is not lonely – before forming an opinion,talk to the child,may help debunk the long-standing archaic opinions.

Stop making disparaging comments on families with same gender kids.

A family is perfect when there is mutual respect,peace and harmony amongst them.

Stop being a stereotype it’s 2019…

Who is your fallback!

People help you the way they know to help you. To help you to come out of stress, one friend will ask you to drink and another will ask you to meditate. To overcome hurt, one friend will ask you to take revenge and get even, and another will ask you to forgive and get ahead with your life. ‘Who is your fallback’ makes all the difference. Duryodhana’s predicament, in his own words, was, “I know what is right but I am not able to indulge in it. I know what is wrong but I am not able to avoid it.” He needed a fallback. His fallback was his uncle Saguni, and resultantly, Duryodhana moved from bad to worse. Arjuna’s predicament was different. He was allowing his personal emotions to dominate his sense of duty, and hence wanted to escape from the responsibilities he had towards upholding righteousness. He needed a fallback. His fallback was Krishna, and resultantly, Arjuna was restored to his greatness. Humans we are, at some point or the other, we all need a fallback. ‘Who is your fallback’ makes all the difference.

Our kids look up to us all the time.For them we are their role models.Choose your words and keep a tap on your actions when they are around.Unknowingly we end up saying something which they overhear and pick up.Before we scold them we need to check how did this actually happen,are we the root cause of it.They do not learn anything on their own,they learn from what they see and what they hear.They also learn from peers and not to forget the idiot box at home.Unlike our times today they have lot of other sources computers,laptops etc.Keep an eye on what they watch.Cartoons are no more the way they used to be.Lot of unwanted stuff.Encourage them to play board games ,out door games.Play with them whenever you can make time.Teach them the games we played they have all become unheard now (seven stones,hopscotch ,name -place-animal-thing etc etc)…

Teach them how they can right a wrong other than stopping them from making a mistake.We all make mistakes but it’s important we don’t repeat it and understand why we shouldn’t.

As parents we should on a regular basis question ourselves are we giving enough time to our kids and if we are not convinced then accordingly make the necessary changes in our lifestyle.They need us as much as we need them.Dont lie to your kids better to confess to them going down to their level as they are always learning from us.Young kids can make out the difference in tone and body language.

Being a parent is not easy – There is no good or bad parent it’s just the situation and our mind frame at that point👍

Teach your kids to take\accept “NO” for an answer.Its important we keep the authority with us and set limits for them in a structured manner.If your child reacts in a negative way for a NO that means so far you have been watering to the wrong behaviour that it has grown so much.Setting limits also gets discipline in the house.They may throw fit to accept and if that time you flare up they will consider you on the same level and act more stubborn.Sometimes its good to distract them,take them away to a different room and then make them understand your point.Its important to explain to them why they are being asked to do so..The parent child relationship needs to be there in their childhood and growing years,to an extent even in their teens.You can become friends gradually with them.You don’t need to be a Hitler you can be friendly.The earlier you set the goals in their life it’s easy,as time passes by it gets tougher.Reward your child with good gifts and not bribes.A disappointment caused by our NO can actually benefit them in the long run,don’t forget to teach them get over it.Coping with failure is not easy ,mind is the gadget they need to be taught how to switch off from the failure and think towards achieving it the next time.A bare hug,encouraging words helps.Kids get upset over a friend not attending their party – for them sometimes to handle this is tough…this is just one instance,I am sure you have many to share…Its important they fail as kids be it in academics or sport, earlier they learn to handle it the better…Failure is inevitable…

One needs courage to live not to die. Wonder how people are so confident that life after death is more peaceful.One person or one incident maybe the reason why you chose to take such a drastic step,wonder why you don’t remember those thousand reasons that made you smile,that gave you life.Why give somebody or something more importance than self? It’s a selfish act ,you die once and people closely associated with you die daily thinking about it.You failing is not the end of it,maybe it wasn’t meant for you or there was something much better awaiting you.Your life is not only yours it’s shared by many.There are people living for you,waiting to see your one smile -give them the importance why to someone who doesn’t care.Failing in exams ,in a relationship or career is not the end of it…A new beginning can be made anytime.Life these days has become a race.Dont give the society so much importance,they will always have something to say…Life is beautiful,live it to the fullest as if there is no tomorrow.Dont give anybody the right to decide for you ,you are the ultimate owner of your life👍