You may be physically fit but sometimes you just need the mental support to get out of the bed.

You may look mentally strong but sometimes you just need a helping hand.

Ask for help in either case -it doesn’t make you weak or inadequate.

Being compassionate and understanding with ourselves is as important as being with others .Asking for help is perfectly okay and nothing to be ashamed of.

The river cuts through a rock not because of its power but because of its persistence. When you get this feeling that you are not getting anywhere,just stay focused and continue doing what you have to.

Everyday is a new chance to strive again,learn from yesterdays experience and apply it today.

Resilience is like a staircase keep climbing.We may all be at a different step but keep moving and our resilience will exceed the tide of stress.

The key to achieve your goal is taking the first step so stick to your plan.Trust the process.

The ability to bounce back when life throws challenges is the comeback to the setback you had faced earlier.

Having that one person in life who never gives up on you during your hardship and also his\her own hardship.

He who doesn’t see your struggles as an inconvenience and never gets pestered by your problems.That person surely understands this is not something you asked for.If only you could make these bad things go away, you would have.

He who never calls it quits or judges you to make you feel bad\lost\alone.

He who does not make you feel guilty and never stops loving you even when he knows it’s not helping.

He who never forces you to be anyone else or fake an image to please people or him.That person surely knows the difference between “I’m okay,” when it’s real, and when it’s anything but not ok.

Love someone who brings that genuine smile out of you and who can make you happy for just a second in the times you feel the worst.

He who doesn’t hold grudges over things that aren’t worth it. He who reassures you how much he loves you and what you mean to him at the end of each day.

Hold that person tightly who makes you feel loved each passing day.

Love that person unconditionally as humans like him are the ones going extinct in reality.

We just have a handful of such beings who sincerely care and love.

The person who sees you at rock bottom but doesn’t look down upon you.

He who lends his hand and reaches to your level to lift you up.

When you look around do you see anybody like that?

And if you do then you are surely a lucky one ❤️

Today a very known person body shamed me.

Everytime I got body shamed in the past by anybody I would feel hurt and horrible.I could never muster courage to react or defend myself.

I would come home and cry.

Today I kept my calm and reacted to it in my way.

All I told that person was I may look different to you today because of reasons unknown to you.Now that you have already made your comment I choose not to justify to you the reason behind it.

I am still that same girl who grew up in front of your eyes.

I am that same girl who walks to you everytime I am around and checks on your health.

I am that same girl who gives you a smile which you have always admired.Whatever form you see me today may not be pleasing to your eyes but what is within is still the same love and warmth.

In no time the person held my hand and apologized.

This is the best reaction I could give without stooping low and maintaining my dignity.

The fact that somebody thinks your body doesn’t fit their ideal standard shouldn’t make you feel bad about it.

Our beauty standards should come from within and I encourage all of you to love yourselves no matter what the world thinks or says. Perhaps the most criticism about your body comes from your closest friends, relatives,colleagues and the society you live in.

Fight the hate you receive with love by showing some compassion to those who don’t find value in themselves and feel the need to bring others down.

Life is too short to hate but there’s plenty of room for all of us to empower each other with kindness, compassion and love.

We should illuminate our true beauty that goes beyond the world’s expectations of who we should be. We should inspire the people around us as they share their vulnerabilities.There is nothing to hide.

Today I am here,tomorrow you could be in my shoes.

Love the person for who he\she is from within.

The gift wrap may not be very attractive but what is inside could be something you always needed.

New relationships can be very fascinating and mesmerizing initially.If it keeps you close to your loved ones it’s a boon else it’s toxic.

Don’t sacrifice your old bonds for new ones.Today you may find this new connection very poetic but do not forget to acknowledge the old bonds who taught you the notes to read this new poem.

Everything changes when you enter a new relationship but ensure you make room for everyone – the people who were already there and the new debutant.

Do not ghost anyone as they have all been a significant part of your life at some point -good or bad.

All relationships need to be nurtured else they die an untimely death.

No one relationship should diminish the value or overshadow others.

We don’t always choose who we love, but we do get to choose how we love them.Keep them close,prioritize.

Nothing is constant ,sometimes you have to go ,move on and leave things behind.Communicate,that’s least you could do because how you left will always stay with them.

Some people in our life are irreplaceable and their absence makes the heart feel torn apart .A tiny part of you goes out with them.

Looking at “replacing” them is a mistake. If we see each person we meet as an individual with their own unique strengths and weaknesses it’s more realistic to move on even if we lose them.

To heal one has to move on,let go and cherish the memories.

For that to happen closure is important with all those relationships that are no more part of your life.Hence I would once again say communication is important.

Closure helps to deal with loss,rejection and gives clarity why we fell apart and moved on in our respective lives.

Having a variety of relationships with different people is healthy – takes care of your mental health and well-being.

Explore a relationship but not exploit 🙏❤️

There is no other place like home in this world.Home is that base where everything begins.A place where your present gets built and future slowly unfolds.

A blend of modern and traditional decor adds a separate charm and coziness to the home.By traditional I mean fancy antiques and classic art pieces which carry the richness from our history.Modern styling speaks for itself keeping in my mind the current trend.

We all have our individual thoughts on how our home should look like – Here’s mine 😊

Living area with large windows allowing natural light to come in abundance making the room look spacious and airy.

Kitchen filled with aroma of good food prepared with lots of love.

Kids rooms should reflect their personality and should be a little messy after all it’s your home and not a museum.

A roof under which each one has his freedom and space to breath and live to their fullest.

A home should be warm, relaxing, happy,filled with good vibes and a place where you would want to hang out and relax.

Many a times we search for something everywhere and eventually find it in our own home.

You may sometimes question yourself ,is this the one or should we look for another one soon -the contentment probably is missing,it’s normal to get such thoughts at times.

Do not always think about tomorrow, or what the next house will bring. Focus on what you have right now and OWN IT!

Never compare yours with someone else’s – like it’s said ,”comparison is the thief of joy”.

Draw inspiration from them but do not make comparisons. Everyone’s situation is different and we all have our own idea of what is perfect for us according to our personal situation.

To me it’s a perfect home when one looks forward to return back to it each day.A roof under which my family feels secured where they sit together and exchange thoughts – share happiness and sadness.

Size doesn’t matter at all.Peace and love should always prevail.

A cluttered house,a crooked wall hanging ,sink of full dishes to clean or electrical wires dangling everywhere shouldn’t be the way you define your house.Else you will start to feel everything wrong about it.A home is beautiful more than how it looks.All these things can be handled but it’s important that your mindset and perspective both first fall in place.

Its easy to criticize the home when things are not right but have you ever thought ,how many times have you thanked it when things were correct as per you.

A home should be perfectly imperfect.A place where we find solace from the outside world.Free yourselves from that fairy tale of perfection,there is nothing like that .It’s only an illusion.

It should be a place where you and the people who visit you both feel the comfort, the beauty, the hospitality, the joy and the love! It is the best and most tangible way to create a home that is a sanctuary for all.

Fill it up with memories and not only with furniture.

Our home reflects our inner feelings .Today it’s yours,tomorrow it will become the home for your future generations -some may refer it as an ancestral home .Perhaps that’s why it becomes your responsibility to build it with happiness and love.Its going to carry the treasure of memories for the generations to come after you.

When we have arguments or disagreements it’s not always easy to accept the mistake or apologize.We carry the fear of losing face to that person.This is quite a normal feeling.How much ever we believe it’s better to apologize it’s not always easy.

Similarly with kids they could have fights with their siblings or peers.

Fights and arguments have nothing to do with age.

A child too carries an ego just like an adult does.

It’s ok to not force yourself to apologize or even ask your child to apologize to someone.

Damage is done and you have realized it – that’s what is important.

If saying sorry comes easy to you ,great ,go ahead.

If not,what do you do?

To begin with,relax,take a deep breath and then slowly entangle the tangled emotions in your mind.

Damage comes with a cost.If you can’t apologize the other better option is “Repair it “.

Make an effort to do something special and reconcile the differences.

With kids it can be more challenging.Let them know how they treat others comes with a cost and they are always responsible for repairs when they do damage. Allow them to CHOOSE their own repair, which makes them feel good, and also reminds them every-time such situation arises.

It’s highly possible your child will not agree to do the repair especially when he\she feels more hurt\offended.

Healing will be your next level – listen to your child,listen to your child’s upsets,build the trust and acknowledge their feelings.They also want to be heard and trusted before they step up to repair.

This assures them that you care, they aren’t alone, and it’s ok to feel those old emotions and move past them.

This way you’re supporting your child to heal from their past unhappiness and at the same time you are also educating them how important it is to repair current relationships.

Be there always in their life for problem-solving, help them work through their feelings and fears, and assure them .They should not sidestep the difficulty, but handle the problem themselves whether it requires offering an apology or making amends in a more concrete way.

Keep BLAMES outside your household.

“One can always come up with better solutions from a state of acceptance than a state of blame”.

People who take responsibility in any given situation are people who are willing to be different and they surely stand out.

That’s the kind of kid we would all want to raise.

Their adulthood gets much sorted when these values are inculcated at a raw age.They understand to value and be responsible.

They can lead by example and be the change.

The length of a relationship, and how well you both have connected over the years,be it two friends or partners determines the strength of your relationship.

Do you respect each others boundaries well? Do you openly share your life with each other, or try to paint a picture that’s glossy all the time?

You may have spent decades in a relationship but there comes a time you would want to evaluate,if you have come together or fallen apart.

In every relationship there is a lot of expectations,commitments,emotions,compassion and involvement required.

We all go through ups and downs in life.How we have come out of it is what matters.

When you tolerate too much you end up giving out a wrong signal and thus you get treated in the same manner repeatedly.

Did you compromise alone or both of you shared the burden?

Its not necessary things remain the same as it had all begun once.

Lot of things change over a period of time.

In a relationship one could be a controller\egoistic or an abuser or a manipulator but unfortunately they never see their own fault as they busy pointing their fingers on the other person.

It gets important to set standards in a relationship.That way the other person knows how much you can “give in”or “be pushed”.

Setting standards is a great idea,but how many follow it?

It’s easy to say get immune to others opinions and you will no more feel like a victim.Ignoring is not a solution it’s only further allowing them to treat you worse.

You cannot be the person you are not for very long.

Trying to be somebody else is the beginning of the failure of that relationship.

Do not sacrifice your future brooding over your past and compromising your present.

Making identity for yourself is important as it can only be made and not be found.

People may point fingers at the decision you make but will never accept that they are the reason for the change.

Be proud of yourself because when you fell apart,you picked yourself up and made the right choice for yourself.

It’s never too late to begin something new.All you need is to prepare yourself for the change,the worst is over and the new beginning is fully in your control.

You will find way or will learn to build one.

Move on.

Stagnant water loses its purity so be the flowing water and enjoy the journey.

Setting boundaries is the key and nobody can do that for you.

Love yourself it’s not being selfish ❤️

When you are a friendly person , you tend to be approachable and polite.It’s not because you like the person.That’s in your nature an inherent quality you possess.

When you are a smiling person ,you tend to genuinely flash a warm smile in your conversations.It’s not because you want to please the person.That’s your way to spread positivity.

When you are a good listener,you tend to give full attention to the speaker.It’s not because you have all the time in the world.That’s your way of attentively and sympathetically understanding the speaker.

You would agree that the above qualities are found in a good and dependable friend.

We all need such people in our day to day lives.

What many of us don’t realize is just because someone possesses these pleasing qualities it does not give them the right to take him\her for granted.

We are born having too many pre-defined relations but friendship is the only relationship we can choose on our own and if we get it right, our lives become easy to pull through.

They are with us in our highs and lows, ups and downs,happiness and sorrow.

What if your friends take advantage of your niceness and start to behave indifferently.

Emotional pains are more dangerous than any disease as there are no clear symptoms or cure for it.

Just because your friend has been treating you well every-time you wanted to talk or chat does not mean he\she is ready to take any kind of crap.

Treasure your friends,do not misuse the bond.Once the cracks are formed in the relationship they will remain forever.

Treat them the way you would want to be treated.Protect them and not exploit.

Friends will always be your true earnings and your friendship will reflect the warmth.

We constantly make friends in all facets of our life and each holds its own richness of understanding and acceptance.

Positively fuel your friendships and they will never let you wither away.

Practice the pause, you will avoid doing and saying things you may later regret.

My personal experience.