Having a boy and a girl doesn’t make a complete family or a perfect family.

A family with a single child or children of the same gender are not an incomplete family.

A single child is not lonely – before forming an opinion,talk to the child,may help debunk the long-standing archaic opinions.

Stop making disparaging comments on families with same gender kids.

A family is perfect when there is mutual respect,peace and harmony amongst them.

Stop being a stereotype it’s 2019…

Who is your fallback!

People help you the way they know to help you. To help you to come out of stress, one friend will ask you to drink and another will ask you to meditate. To overcome hurt, one friend will ask you to take revenge and get even, and another will ask you to forgive and get ahead with your life. ‘Who is your fallback’ makes all the difference. Duryodhana’s predicament, in his own words, was, “I know what is right but I am not able to indulge in it. I know what is wrong but I am not able to avoid it.” He needed a fallback. His fallback was his uncle Saguni, and resultantly, Duryodhana moved from bad to worse. Arjuna’s predicament was different. He was allowing his personal emotions to dominate his sense of duty, and hence wanted to escape from the responsibilities he had towards upholding righteousness. He needed a fallback. His fallback was Krishna, and resultantly, Arjuna was restored to his greatness. Humans we are, at some point or the other, we all need a fallback. ‘Who is your fallback’ makes all the difference.

Our kids look up to us all the time.For them we are their role models.Choose your words and keep a tap on your actions when they are around.Unknowingly we end up saying something which they overhear and pick up.Before we scold them we need to check how did this actually happen,are we the root cause of it.They do not learn anything on their own,they learn from what they see and what they hear.They also learn from peers and not to forget the idiot box at home.Unlike our times today they have lot of other sources computers,laptops etc.Keep an eye on what they watch.Cartoons are no more the way they used to be.Lot of unwanted stuff.Encourage them to play board games ,out door games.Play with them whenever you can make time.Teach them the games we played they have all become unheard now (seven stones,hopscotch ,name -place-animal-thing etc etc)…

Teach them how they can right a wrong other than stopping them from making a mistake.We all make mistakes but it’s important we don’t repeat it and understand why we shouldn’t.

As parents we should on a regular basis question ourselves are we giving enough time to our kids and if we are not convinced then accordingly make the necessary changes in our lifestyle.They need us as much as we need them.Dont lie to your kids better to confess to them going down to their level as they are always learning from us.Young kids can make out the difference in tone and body language.

Being a parent is not easy – There is no good or bad parent it’s just the situation and our mind frame at that point👍

Teach your kids to take\accept “NO” for an answer.Its important we keep the authority with us and set limits for them in a structured manner.If your child reacts in a negative way for a NO that means so far you have been watering to the wrong behaviour that it has grown so much.Setting limits also gets discipline in the house.They may throw fit to accept and if that time you flare up they will consider you on the same level and act more stubborn.Sometimes its good to distract them,take them away to a different room and then make them understand your point.Its important to explain to them why they are being asked to do so..The parent child relationship needs to be there in their childhood and growing years,to an extent even in their teens.You can become friends gradually with them.You don’t need to be a Hitler you can be friendly.The earlier you set the goals in their life it’s easy,as time passes by it gets tougher.Reward your child with good gifts and not bribes.A disappointment caused by our NO can actually benefit them in the long run,don’t forget to teach them get over it.Coping with failure is not easy ,mind is the gadget they need to be taught how to switch off from the failure and think towards achieving it the next time.A bare hug,encouraging words helps.Kids get upset over a friend not attending their party – for them sometimes to handle this is tough…this is just one instance,I am sure you have many to share…Its important they fail as kids be it in academics or sport, earlier they learn to handle it the better…Failure is inevitable…

One needs courage to live not to die. Wonder how people are so confident that life after death is more peaceful.One person or one incident maybe the reason why you chose to take such a drastic step,wonder why you don’t remember those thousand reasons that made you smile,that gave you life.Why give somebody or something more importance than self? It’s a selfish act ,you die once and people closely associated with you die daily thinking about it.You failing is not the end of it,maybe it wasn’t meant for you or there was something much better awaiting you.Your life is not only yours it’s shared by many.There are people living for you,waiting to see your one smile -give them the importance why to someone who doesn’t care.Failing in exams ,in a relationship or career is not the end of it…A new beginning can be made anytime.Life these days has become a race.Dont give the society so much importance,they will always have something to say…Life is beautiful,live it to the fullest as if there is no tomorrow.Dont give anybody the right to decide for you ,you are the ultimate owner of your life👍

Our childhood memories with mangoes (Alphonso).Our parents buying the crate of mangoes ,4dozens arranged according to how ripe it is,ripest lot at the top.Aam ki peti is how we remember it.No fun in cutting and eating.It has to be eaten squashing with the hand messing up the clothes ,sticky feeling around mouth,eating it till you can see the seed white in colour 😊.How many times the mango strings get stuck between your teeth.Summer vacations and mango season always coincide in India.Competitions with friends and cousins,how fast can you eat?how many can you eat? Puri aamrus best combination…Nobody can escape from the scent of the juicy Alphonso’s.Typically the crates used to be kept under the cot in our small Mumbai homes.We were like flies waiting to attack.Some neighbor would have connections to get mangoes from Ratnagiri and the message spreads like forest fire ,you try to be the first to reach to get the best picks😊.Todays kids are cleanliness freaks to enjoy the way we used to.They can pass an embarrassing statement how can you eat it like this,well that’s how it is eaten😊.

Reliving childhood with Mangoes 😁

It’s a beautiful garment, very colorful,bright,eye catching. It has many layers of cloth to be stitched together to keep the beauty intact. I start stitching and when I reach the midway the thread breaks and I have to tie a knot to continue. The knot is visible. Most people choose to see the knot first then the garment. All of a sudden the value of the garment drops and the beauty holds no value like before. The tiny knot gets all the attention and becomes popular. I am left with only one choice – open it completely and redo it.But there is still no guarantee,in the process I may damage the whole stuff. I choose to leave the knot there. People who choose to see the knot can move away disliking it.I am sure I will still be left with bunch who will admire the real beauty and not judge a knot.

There will always be these two sets of people in our life. We can’t keep changing our self to suit others else in this bargain I will lose myself.

Yesterday is over and you wont get it back.
Tomorrow is yet to come and you are not sure if you would get there.
This leaves you only with Today.
Live it to the fullest, don’t hold back yourself -just say it, just do it.
Every tomorrow will get worth waiting for and yesterday becomes a memory!

Life is a palette of beautiful colors which exhibit different emotions.
You are the artist of your life. Choose the right size of the brush for each color. One wrong choice could highlight an emotion which is of least importance.
Paintbrush is like your attitude, use it correctly and make your life a master piece.

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