You go to the shop and love an outfit..

Out of budget for you,you decide to save every penny for it and pick it up….

Then comes a phase..

You leave everything else you actually wanted to pick for this one outfit..

Then comes a time..

You like it ,you pick it.. (not bothering about the cost)

And then comes a time..

You love it and you can buy it and many more..you question yourself do I really need it…

Wondering why couldn’t we apply our mind in the reverse order

Every writer needs a reader.The writer through his writings etches his own thoughts and experiences which becomes a memory to the readers.

We need to be story tellers so that it keeps the child in us alive.Reading stories lights up your child’s imagination, stimulates curiosity and helps with brain development.When you see your child applying it in his real life you feel all the time spent with them has been paid off.Their social behaviour changes and these fiction stories make them more empathetic.Helps in shaping their thoughts and views.Enjoy reading with them best time to bond 😊

Some couples live separate lives even when they sleep under one roof. They have separate hobbies, friends, careers, exercise routines, and chores. Their lives are like the rail tracks – parallel to each other—they may even be well coordinated—but they do not intersect. And if your lives don’t intersect, you will not connect.Try involving yourself in your spouse’s interest, the involvement will create the connection.Talk about your interests , share as much as you can, do things together it will be lot of fun.

To achieve this the first thing one should learn to say is “WE” and let go the “I” behind.For many people it is very difficult.It should be a conscious effort and then you will see the magic in your life.You will give and also have more family time.

Many a times we believe that we need this thing and it is going to bring happiness.More than the need it’s the thought that pushes your mind towards it.Its said one should not love things that cannot love back.Materialistic things have an expiry.Peep into a persons life to see if he has sufficient not to get into competition.Its very sad to see people call these materialistic things as blessings.Blessings are the people who stand by you for what you are.What kind of a person you are is what matters not your possessions!

Earlier days this proverb worked “Spare the rod and spoil the child”, today this works better “Spare the time and hug your child”.

Relationships fail if there are expectations.

Expectations means chances of disappointments.

One can be under pressure all times and the mind would display a status frustrated or miserable.

A realistic approach\expectation becomes the secret ingredient to happiness unlocking the stress in our lives.

We can only control if the expectation is ours not when it’s theirs.

Some just can’t be pleased and to keep up to them we end up losing our self.

Is it really worth it –

“There are going to be days when you won’t have the energy or drive to get out of bed. There are going to be days when you’re going to want to give up – give up on love, life, or school. The thing is, you’re not allowed to give up. You were given a life and you’re supposed to live it. The truth is the seventy or eighty years that you’re given isn’t long enough to do the things you’re supposed to do. Sure, you’re gonna hit a few bumps along the way, but you’ve got to pick yourself up and move on. Life is unpredictable and things might not always work out the way you want them to, but that’s no reason to give up. You’re here for a reason and someday when you’re not expecting it, you’re going to discover your reason for being here. And when that does happen, your life will never be the same again.”

I have walked ahead too much to turn back but I can stop and wait for you to start afresh.

Childhood friends/old friends are different,they are very special.We have had so much fun then that we didn’t really realise that we were creating memories.Talking to them,you rediscover yourself,it’s a complete de stress session.When you are tired of making sensible constructive conversation you remember your childhood friends with whom you don’t need to think but just blah blah blah, giggle and have a complete non sensical conversation.In today’s stressful life we need to have these conversations regularly to keep our mind clear and healthy.Never let go these contagious friends from your life they need you as much as you need them.If you lose track of time talking to someone that means you are with the right person.Reunions are being heard more often now -you all will agree.Its healthy and it should continue….Similarly we miss our holidays with our cousins,they are all scattered and have different annual holidays.We see their kids grow up only in pictures…Hope we see change there as well…

Well we all know in advance that in the coming year our child is going to appear for the 10th or 12th boards. Years that have been over hyped not saying they are not crucial but it’s become more life threatening.

Parents and school behave as if it’s a do or die situation more so because of peer pressure amongst parents as well as kids.

So most common questions in every get together or party or a function – so how’s it going?

What’s the plan? What next? We aren’t sure what is stored for us in the next one hour but we are expected to explain what we are going to do in the next year. It does not end there. Loads of advises and comparisons follow.

It’s good to talk about it. What you talk and how you talk is what matters.

Parents, Teachers and children surely need counseling for a smooth year and better results.

Do we talk to children about fall back plans?? It’s good to be positive but it’s important to be practical too.

What if we (important word, sense of security) don’t get there, what’s plan B and what’s plan C.

Not only bad performance, an unforeseen incident or anything that comes your way and hampers the plan A, how do we cope as a family… it can just be a bad day too.

It’s not the end of the world, there is a tomorrow waiting. There is nothing like a last chance till you choose to give up.

Coping with failure is not easy, mind is the gadget and one needs to learn to switch off from the failure and think towards achieving it next time.

As the exam dates are nearing (this can be six months in advance too) cable connection get cut, no internet, no parties, no social life…the house looks more like a morgue. Do we really have to be so melodramatric? every phone call conversation is about exams; the world around has come to a standstill. everything gets postponed to post exams…Can’t it be less hyped. are you trying to reduce pressure or add pressure??

Don’t make it an unpleasant journey or a harrowing time for your child.

Don’t make the boards a yardstick or a mirror to evaluate one’s personality.

Teach them, stand by them to take setbacks in their stride.

Parents and teachers fail too when a child underperforms let’s not forget that…

Grades can never snatch the individual qualities of the child.

Change your mindset.

Best wishes to all.