There is no other place like home in this world.Home is that base where everything begins.A place where your present gets built and future slowly unfolds.

A blend of modern and traditional decor adds a separate charm and coziness to the home.By traditional I mean fancy antiques and classic art pieces which carry the richness from our history.Modern styling speaks for itself keeping in my mind the current trend.

We all have our individual thoughts on how our home should look like – Here’s mine 😊

Living area with large windows allowing natural light to come in abundance making the room look spacious and airy.

Kitchen filled with aroma of good food prepared with lots of love.

Kids rooms should reflect their personality and should be a little messy after all it’s your home and not a museum.

A roof under which each one has his freedom and space to breath and live to their fullest.

A home should be warm, relaxing, happy,filled with good vibes and a place where you would want to hang out and relax.

Many a times we search for something everywhere and eventually find it in our own home.

You may sometimes question yourself ,is this the one or should we look for another one soon -the contentment probably is missing,it’s normal to get such thoughts at times.

Do not always think about tomorrow, or what the next house will bring. Focus on what you have right now and OWN IT!

Never compare yours with someone else’s – like it’s said ,”comparison is the thief of joy”.

Draw inspiration from them but do not make comparisons. Everyone’s situation is different and we all have our own idea of what is perfect for us according to our personal situation.

To me it’s a perfect home when one looks forward to return back to it each day.A roof under which my family feels secured where they sit together and exchange thoughts – share happiness and sadness.

Size doesn’t matter at all.Peace and love should always prevail.

A cluttered house,a crooked wall hanging ,sink of full dishes to clean or electrical wires dangling everywhere shouldn’t be the way you define your house.Else you will start to feel everything wrong about it.A home is beautiful more than how it looks.All these things can be handled but it’s important that your mindset and perspective both first fall in place.

Its easy to criticize the home when things are not right but have you ever thought ,how many times have you thanked it when things were correct as per you.

A home should be perfectly imperfect.A place where we find solace from the outside world.Free yourselves from that fairy tale of perfection,there is nothing like that .It’s only an illusion.

It should be a place where you and the people who visit you both feel the comfort, the beauty, the hospitality, the joy and the love! It is the best and most tangible way to create a home that is a sanctuary for all.

Fill it up with memories and not only with furniture.

Our home reflects our inner feelings .Today it’s yours,tomorrow it will become the home for your future generations -some may refer it as an ancestral home .Perhaps that’s why it becomes your responsibility to build it with happiness and love.Its going to carry the treasure of memories for the generations to come after you.

When we have arguments or disagreements it’s not always easy to accept the mistake or apologize.We carry the fear of losing face to that person.This is quite a normal feeling.How much ever we believe it’s better to apologize it’s not always easy.

Similarly with kids they could have fights with their siblings or peers.

Fights and arguments have nothing to do with age.

A child too carries an ego just like an adult does.

It’s ok to not force yourself to apologize or even ask your child to apologize to someone.

Damage is done and you have realized it – that’s what is important.

If saying sorry comes easy to you ,great ,go ahead.

If not,what do you do?

To begin with,relax,take a deep breath and then slowly entangle the tangled emotions in your mind.

Damage comes with a cost.If you can’t apologize the other better option is “Repair it “.

Make an effort to do something special and reconcile the differences.

With kids it can be more challenging.Let them know how they treat others comes with a cost and they are always responsible for repairs when they do damage. Allow them to CHOOSE their own repair, which makes them feel good, and also reminds them every-time such situation arises.

It’s highly possible your child will not agree to do the repair especially when he\she feels more hurt\offended.

Healing will be your next level – listen to your child,listen to your child’s upsets,build the trust and acknowledge their feelings.They also want to be heard and trusted before they step up to repair.

This assures them that you care, they aren’t alone, and it’s ok to feel those old emotions and move past them.

This way you’re supporting your child to heal from their past unhappiness and at the same time you are also educating them how important it is to repair current relationships.

Be there always in their life for problem-solving, help them work through their feelings and fears, and assure them .They should not sidestep the difficulty, but handle the problem themselves whether it requires offering an apology or making amends in a more concrete way.

Keep BLAMES outside your household.

“One can always come up with better solutions from a state of acceptance than a state of blame”.

People who take responsibility in any given situation are people who are willing to be different and they surely stand out.

That’s the kind of kid we would all want to raise.

Their adulthood gets much sorted when these values are inculcated at a raw age.They understand to value and be responsible.

They can lead by example and be the change.

The length of a relationship, and how well you both have connected over the years,be it two friends or partners determines the strength of your relationship.

Do you respect each others boundaries well? Do you openly share your life with each other, or try to paint a picture that’s glossy all the time?

You may have spent decades in a relationship but there comes a time you would want to evaluate,if you have come together or fallen apart.

In every relationship there is a lot of expectations,commitments,emotions,compassion and involvement required.

We all go through ups and downs in life.How we have come out of it is what matters.

When you tolerate too much you end up giving out a wrong signal and thus you get treated in the same manner repeatedly.

Did you compromise alone or both of you shared the burden?

Its not necessary things remain the same as it had all begun once.

Lot of things change over a period of time.

In a relationship one could be a controller\egoistic or an abuser or a manipulator but unfortunately they never see their own fault as they busy pointing their fingers on the other person.

It gets important to set standards in a relationship.That way the other person knows how much you can “give in”or “be pushed”.

Setting standards is a great idea,but how many follow it?

It’s easy to say get immune to others opinions and you will no more feel like a victim.Ignoring is not a solution it’s only further allowing them to treat you worse.

You cannot be the person you are not for very long.

Trying to be somebody else is the beginning of the failure of that relationship.

Do not sacrifice your future brooding over your past and compromising your present.

Making identity for yourself is important as it can only be made and not be found.

People may point fingers at the decision you make but will never accept that they are the reason for the change.

Be proud of yourself because when you fell apart,you picked yourself up and made the right choice for yourself.

It’s never too late to begin something new.All you need is to prepare yourself for the change,the worst is over and the new beginning is fully in your control.

You will find way or will learn to build one.

Move on.

Stagnant water loses its purity so be the flowing water and enjoy the journey.

Setting boundaries is the key and nobody can do that for you.

Love yourself it’s not being selfish ❤️

When you are a friendly person , you tend to be approachable and polite.It’s not because you like the person.That’s in your nature an inherent quality you possess.

When you are a smiling person ,you tend to genuinely flash a warm smile in your conversations.It’s not because you want to please the person.That’s your way to spread positivity.

When you are a good listener,you tend to give full attention to the speaker.It’s not because you have all the time in the world.That’s your way of attentively and sympathetically understanding the speaker.

You would agree that the above qualities are found in a good and dependable friend.

We all need such people in our day to day lives.

What many of us don’t realize is just because someone possesses these pleasing qualities it does not give them the right to take him\her for granted.

We are born having too many pre-defined relations but friendship is the only relationship we can choose on our own and if we get it right, our lives become easy to pull through.

They are with us in our highs and lows, ups and downs,happiness and sorrow.

What if your friends take advantage of your niceness and start to behave indifferently.

Emotional pains are more dangerous than any disease as there are no clear symptoms or cure for it.

Just because your friend has been treating you well every-time you wanted to talk or chat does not mean he\she is ready to take any kind of crap.

Treasure your friends,do not misuse the bond.Once the cracks are formed in the relationship they will remain forever.

Treat them the way you would want to be treated.Protect them and not exploit.

Friends will always be your true earnings and your friendship will reflect the warmth.

We constantly make friends in all facets of our life and each holds its own richness of understanding and acceptance.

Positively fuel your friendships and they will never let you wither away.

Practice the pause, you will avoid doing and saying things you may later regret.

My personal experience.

We recently had our college reunion in Dubai with our local “Vivians” who attended from all batches.

Reunions are a form of time travel, when who we are now gets acquainted with who we were then.

It was a nostalgic evening which took us back to the carefree days filled with fun,tantrums and memories.

Everything about a college reunion is a reminder of privilege – of having a chance to attend it in the first place then explore and experiment.An opportunity to be foolish together and then periodically reunite to forgive and forget.

The older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.

It was a delight to watch couples who have stayed together since college,grown up together to become finer couples.

While conversing with a friend you discover that some advises you had given in the past to him\ her which you may have forgotten has turned out to be an unforgettable turning point for the person.

Sometimes it also happens that people who touched you most deeply have no memory of that chapter at all.

Hence Reunions are important as they help you rediscover yourself from an old lens.

And now about the evening –

We had an enthusiastic Reunion Organiser Sapna who along with couple of others planned,executed and ensured the evening gets etched in our memory and hearts for times to come.

We had a cool and enthusiastic EMCEE

Joe Mohan who had really done his homework well.He successfully kept us hooked together and engaged us all evening helping us reminisce our college days.

The nightingale of our college Saurabh Ail with his melodious voice uplifted the moods of each one present.His voice and choice of songs left us teary eyed.He touched our hearts the same way he did decades back.

We had a DJ to our disposal who maintained his smile throughout the evening catering to each one’s choice of songs on the dance floor.

How can I miss mentioning about the team games arranged by our Reunion organizing committee and of course the gifts that followed.

Parties are never complete without food and drinks.Lip smacking appetizers to unlimited booze and a huge variety of desserts.

Last but not the least each one was given a gift at the end of the event as a token of love and memory we carried as we walked out of the party hall.

There was a flow of mixed emotions towards the end and no one wanted to leave.The good byes lasted long,there were hugs and promises made to catch up soon again.

The party hall became home away from home for all of us.

Summer break holds a special place in children’s life.

It’s typically the longest school break of the academic year.

It is the time when children can relax and enjoy their free time.A time to catch up on anything that was kept on hold.Spending quality time with family and friends, and also the best time to explore new hobbies or interests.

Some choose to travel,the ones away from home country make plans to visit home and rest choose to relax in their own way.

This year becomes special – Many would be travelling home after 3 years as Covid\lockdown kept us away for long.

Its been a long awaited emotional holiday for many.

Make up for the lost time,catch up on all that you missed.

It could be from milestone birthdays to anniversaries or anything..

When you are with your family you can recreate the day and make up for all those lost moments.

Do not let go the chance as we really don’t know what the future holds for us.

Can’t wait to be home!

Happy Holidays to one and all 😊

Be safe and Keep adding memories 🤗

The stature given to it is “God of all subjects”.

Good enough to bring in the additional pressure.

Math is not everybody’s cup of tea and that should be perfectly alright.

Mathematics as a subject brings in anxiety to many.It’s strange but true,even before the topic is covered in school, anxiety creeps in making it’s debut in your minds.

Many feel extremely nervous in a situation where they are required to do basic math. For subjects like English, marks can come from a variety of factors like creativity, spelling, grammar, style, punctuation, and much more. With math, there are few opportunities to earn marks because an answer can only be right or wrong.

Numbers and formulas do not excite everyone. Maths is looked at as an abstract subject with irrelevant figures that are difficult to understand.

Being nervous is normal but having anxiety is different.The main trigger to anxiety is letting this feeling of ,”I am not good in maths” make room in your mind which later triggers and makes you believe,“I do not like the subject”.

Why is there so much peer pressure for this subject?

What I feel is,how math is taught decides the liking or non liking for it.The best teachers can make you fall in love with the subject.

Math to me is different, it’s not just another subject but an emotion.As a young child, I learned to love math. My love for math stems from learning math from my father.In our house it meant father-daughter bonding time and we surely created memories of a life time in a short while.

What I like about the subject most is you can either be right or wrong. There’s no grey area. I personally enjoy this objective approach and the certainty that it brings in.Also there is no scope for speculation as everything requires an evidence.

New concepts rely on the old which you would have learnt in the past making it more interesting and engaging.

The joy of solving a problem which you initially felt impossible is unparalleled.A math lover would vouch on that.It’s a different kick that you get by cracking sum.

It never gets monotonous,each day learning gets more interesting and you look forward to it.

Math also teaches that every problem has a solution.

I would like to say I love the subject probably because I had the best teacher- My father -I call him a Math Wiz.

So don’t feel bad or dejected it’s just that you are yet to come across the best teacher 😉

The mistakes that happen in our life cannot become the ultimate yardstick to define us.It’s unfair to judge someone by them.

Mistakes are like the initial drafts we prepare with trial and errors hence it becomes important to wait for the final version.

Your mistakes aren’t engraved on any stone that you don’t get a second chance.

There is always a second chance,look for it.It gives you more courage,patience and wisdom to right the wrong.

When life gives you the second chance be grateful don’t feel entitled.

Take it as an opportunity to work harder and make things right. It’s what you do with the second chance that counts.    

That’s why it’s said ,”Your comeback is stronger than your setback”.

If I had to simplify this whole thing – I would say,”if you have a tomorrow then that’s your second chance”.

I have many flaws,scars and imperfections.

I own them,accept them and they keep me grounded.

It’s not that I didn’t try to fix them or perfect them.

I also tried and pushed myself like most of you would have done.

In the process of doing so I realized I gave it too much attention than it deserved losing sight of all the good things happening around me.

This flawed feeling in your head robs your inner peace and happiness directly affecting your confidence.

This may sound philosophical to you but love is the easiest heal.

Love your flaws,accept it and you will feel liberated.

Once we accept ourself the biggest battle is won.

We always mistake it by asking ourself,

“Will I be accepted?”

Nobody needs to accept you -You need to accept yourself.

My body,My personality,My life and My circumstances – they are all mine then why do I seek Your opinion and why should Your view matter to me.

Be compassionate to yourself,love yourself -Love should be your antidote.

We are all created unique and special.

We are here for a bigger purpose and what we call a flaw is just a minute part of the masterpiece we are ❤️