Let’s stop normalizing unkindness in the name of ‘just saying.’ 

Words can cut deep—wounds don’t always show.

Stop masking cruelty as honesty or casual talk.

Let’s Go Back to the Friendship That Mattered

Back in school — we were all equals.
No ego, no status, no judgments.
Just laughter, shared lunchboxes, and pure connection.

Then life happened.
College showed us financial differences.
Work brought in titles, salaries, and silent comparisons.
Curiosity turned into competition,
jealousy slipped in quietly,
and the innocence of our bond began to fade.

But deep down, we’re still the same kids
who found joy in the simplest moments.
Can we forget the labels and roles?
Can we return to the friendship —
not the version shaped by life,
but the one we chose with our hearts?

Let’s clear the air.
Let’s reconnect.
Because life’s too short to lose something so rare.

In the end, it’s not the designations or digits that stay —
it’s the people,
the memories,
and the friendships that felt like home.

Sometimes you just drop a casual “Hey, hope you’re good!”

And boom — you get hit with the classic:

“All good, super busy, will catch up later!”

Relax buddy, I wasn’t trying to schedule a TED Talk — just checking if you’re alive! 😄

Some people treat “busy” like a badge of honour — even for replying to a hi!

“A sibling is your first best friend —
the keeper of your childhood memories.
Life may bring new bonds and take you on different paths,
but nothing should ever break the connection you were born with.
Because some ties aren’t made — they’re lived.”

When I see my friends with their fathers near,
Warm hugs and smiles bring both joy and tear.
Their fathers waiting at the door—
Awakens in me a silent, aching sore.

I walk away with a steady face,
But deep inside, I miss your grace.
Your voice, your laugh, your gentle care,
The peace I felt just knowing you were there.

If time could pause or bend its line,
I’d ask for one more moment—just one time.
To hold your hands, to hear you say,
That I’m still your little girl today.

A fleeting breath, a final glance,
To take the words I missed my chance—
To say before you had to go:
I love you, Papa, more than you’ll ever know.

We share everything with each other from the time of birth to the growing up years.

Every relationship is also shared.

Growing up in the same household,eating the same kind of food and sharing all the ups and downs the family is going through.

We automatically learn to share and care.

The bond keeps growing stronger with time.

If you are the older sibling you would develop a sense of responsibility towards your younger sibling.

The older sibling also takes care of the social and emotional needs of the younger one. First-born siblings engage in leadership, teaching, caregiving, advocating and helping roles.Most of these can be related by the 90’s kids who come from the middle class families.

If the age gap is bigger you also develop the maternal instinct, fostering a sense of security and stability within the family which happens very organically. Older sisters emulate their mothers giving their guidance and mentorship to the younger siblings.

You are fine to give away your share of chocolates or anything else the younger sibling lays his\her eyes on.

Protecting the younger one from bullies ,standing up for him\her and sometimes advocating for them going against your parents.

Losing to them while playing board games or cards just to make them happy can be quite annoying.

They are your forever guinea pig on whom you could try new recipes.

If you can relate to any of these then you would have had an amazing power packed childhood.

Such relationships have a strong foundation because you grew up with minimal and found pleasures in each others achievements.There were no gifts exchanged but you shared your favorite food together reminiscing the years together.

It’s indeed a moment of pride to see how your sibling is doing well for himself\herself.

A relationship that always reverts you back to your childhood memories.

To all of you siblings who are celebrating today, lots of love to you ❤️❤️

To a girl who turns 11 today.

A girl with whom I got to relive my childhood once again.

My pride and my little friend.

Sensitive

Impactful

Ardent

that’s SIA for all.

I don’t say this because she is my offspring but anyone who has known her would agree she is a keeper.

A girl with a golden heart who is selfless and approachable.

Gives more than she gets and loves more than she receives.

Sia you have brought us immeasurable joy in the last eleven years and we can’t wait to see what this year brings. Eleven years ago, I held you for the first time and got to begin to learn who you are. 

You are a wonderful daughter to us,sister to your big brother and a wonderful human.

To the girl who colors our world in hues of happiness, may your special day be as delightful as you are.” “Sending you a universe of love on your birthday dearest SIA.

God Bless!

While we make plans for a grand wedding and for the perfect life, we hardly bother to think about ,what awaits us immediately after marriage.

Adapting to a new home comes with several challenges. From adjusting to new beliefs and traditions to setting up a new life.New set of parents,siblings and lots more.

The anxiety level is quite similar to first day of college or even more.You were a child till one day,protected by parents and in 24 hours your status has changed and expectations from you is about reach the sky.You have never been without your family,you miss them and everything else ,your bed ,your pillow ,your closet etc..

One really doesn’t know how the first day would be,there are seniors and juniors here too.Would I be ragged ? Would I be treated as one of them? Would I get the time to adjust and learn their way? Would I be judged?

Zillions of questions on the head and butterflies in the stomach.

For some it’s easy and for some it’s no less than an exam with invigilators watching your every move creating a social anxiety. There would always be someone who is silently observing you and all you could do is smile and pretend to be comfortable.

Your brain starts working overtime and your sub conscious mind compares your parents home with this new home.

Back home you would never think twice before using the washroom, wearing weird clothes or even lying on the living room couch.But from the very first day here you always feel embarrassed thinking everybody would notice whenever you use the washroom,the clothes you wear, and be conscious the way you sit and chat with relatives. Feeling hungry? You will feel awkward in heading to the kitchen and look for snacks.

The first few days of marriage only reminds you that your life had taken a major turn and would look forward to the day when you wouldn’t hesitate before doing anything.

You may have opinions but would keep it to yourself,you may not like something about your spouse but wouldn’t know how to communicate in front of others.

You crave for some lone time with your partner and it’s tough to get that with people around.After the whole days work you want to retire early and spend some lone time.How do express your feelings?

But it’s difficult with people around.They have their own routines as a family for so many years and we can’t change them.It also takes time for them to include you in conversations and for you to involve yourself is not easy.

For some it takes months and for some years to feel everything around is normal and there is nothing more to compare with your parents home.It depends on how fast you accept them and they accept you.

Loads of adjustments and tons of patience is the only way to win hearts and has to come from both sides. Acknowledging and confronting these obstacles as a couple can deepen your bond and help you navigate through the bumpy roads to “Happily Ever After”.