Forgiving and forgetting is easier said than done. For some, it’s almost second nature,they can shrug off a hurt, ignore the sting, and move on as if nothing happened. But not all of us have that superpower button of ignorance. I, for one, neither forget easily nor ignore quickly. For people like me, learning the art of forgiveness isn’t just about being kind to others but about finding peace within ourselves.
It feels like learning a new exercise. The first time is awkward, uncomfortable, even painful. You don’t know if you’re doing it right. And yet, the more you practice, the more natural it becomes. Forgiving, too, needs to be practiced daily. Some days you will fail, slip back into old patterns, and carry the weight of resentment. But that’s okay. Being wired differently only means our journey will take its own time and rhythm.
It’s just like metabolism each person’s pace is different. The body takes its own sweet time to process food, and the mind takes its own sweet time to process blocks. Both need patience. Both need consistency.
What makes this art even harder is the world around us. Some people in our lives behave like walking versions of social media constantly broadcasting, judging, or waiting to pour out comments, both wanted and unwanted. If only life gave us a “dislike” button! Sadly, it doesn’t. At best, we have emojis to express what we feel. But in real life, the best filter we can use is silence and detachment.
There’s another side to this, too: we shouldn’t take compliments too seriously either. If we don’t let the bad stick, we shouldn’t let the good overinflate us. No good, no bad just balance. The only compass worth following is our instincts. When we start living this way, no one can make us feel toxic, no one’s words can cut us deeply, and no mean comment can define us.
Forgiveness, then, isn’t about excusing others. It’s about choosing yourself. It’s about learning to let go, one small step at a time, until you realize the weight is no longer yours to carry.
Because in the end, forgiveness is like fitness—nobody can do it for you, it takes practice, patience, and discipline. And just like a strong body, a strong mind is built when you train it daily. The more you forgive, the lighter you live. And the lighter you live, the freer you become.
Blessmesai 