HOMEMAKER IS NOT JOBLESS!

I am a wife,a homemaker and it’s my choice. My husband didn’t ask me to take this decision.Some circumstances lead you to make tough calls in life.Its never easy to leave a flourishing career.

We didn’t know at start,how things would progress and how long it would take.All we knew was we were in this together. Between us nothing has changed till date.The mutual respect has only grown with time.

That’s about us.

But thats not how the people around perceive a homemaker.Their opinions don’t affect me because my reason is bigger but at the same time cannot be ignored.Not all home makers are fortunate like me and hence somebody has to do the talking.

So here it is –

I don’t mind doing things for him because he does so much for me.We are a team and are interdependent on each other.We don’t discuss who did more work at the end of the day but we discuss how was our day.We share the key things, challenges and give tips to each other.We instill the same values in our kids.Our kids know their parents have a defined role to play and they respect us equally.

Friends -Acquaintances,their normal reaction to the term “Home maker” is most times very disrespectful and taunting.

A homemaker also wakes up early in the morning to ensure the comfort of all her family members.She then does all the chores silently without demanding any kind of credits.Remember one thing she does not have a salary to look forward to or any kind of perk.Whatever she does is out of pure love and care.

Working all seven days a week with no holiday and no salary is not easy. After all the hard work and back breaking efforts, what she gets to hear is, “Oh, you are just a homemaker, you sit at home the whole day with no work to do”.

We buy weekly groceries,make breakfasts,pack tiffins,drop kids to school come back to clean,cook,laundry,monitor budgets,pick the kids,teach,nurse when a member is unwell,manage the running about for extra curricular activities,return home,rush to get the dinner ready,clean again,prepare for next morning.We make the house a home.It takes a lot to keep a household running smoothly, and a homemaker is often charged with running everyday errands.There is lot of work if you have actually witnessed one true one who diligently takes care of the minutest need.There are no tea breaks for them.Its a monotonous job so one needs to keep up the spirits to do the same things day in and out.

Likewise working women are also hardworking,those who actually work.It works the same way either ways.There can be a hardworking home maker and a lazy working woman and a lazy home maker and a hardworking working woman.Depends on whom you have come across.Hence,it’s not right to generalize.

The ones who have criticized are also present here and also the ones on the receiving end.

Yes you are right,we don’t make a monetary contribution to the family.

Does that make us less worthy than you? Financial independence is important but isn’t it more important to respect a person’s choice?

If you find us so lucky why don’t you make a decision and become lucky.What’s the fear?

Why should we face so much criticism ?

Why do you call us ambition-less?

Who really gave you the right to look down on somebody else’s choices and assign a value to them?

I have been on both sides -A working woman and a home maker.I never judged or valued a person on what she got home.

I have respected my mother,grandmothers,mother-in-law for being amazing home makers.They have infact brought up their children with great values(my father and my husband are great examples).

They were all educated and they never thought of encashing their education for a paid job.A choice they made.

Should we respect them less for that? Should we use the term jobless?

It’s not only about me but all those women who have taken bold steps either to stay home and nurture their family or step out and work for their family.

Both are not an easy choice.

People judge others only when they are not happy with themselves.

Next time before you comment on someone do a selfcheck.🧿

(I am only a voice here)