The world around is filled with people waiting to judge.
People who nurture and uplift are in small numbers.
Words spoken may be short but the right ones echo endlessly and the wrong ones tear you apart.
Having a bunch of friends is great.
The count of friends\relatives on Facebook and the number of followers on Instagram can be enthralling.
Somehow with the passing time we realise not everyone is a friend.
You find nothing in common with some of these people whom you would have spent your childhood and adolescent period.
If they are always judging you it can have a direct impact on your self-esteem. Belittling and pointing out flaws all the time can make the relationship toxic. Now their ideologies and outlook on life seems completely unrelatable and the only thing left in common is the growing up together memories or the time spent together.
Old friendship\relationship or new, drawing boundaries are important, either stand for yourself or just walk away. A simple test can be by just telling the other person,” Right now I only want to be heard” inspite of saying it, if the person turns incapable you have the answer in front of you.
Life is filled with new chapters and we just need to move on.
Some people become part of anything and everything you do. Consider yourself lucky to have them as they are the ones who make up for every friend you would have lost over a period of time.
Having few friends makes life easy – neither you need to adapt to them nor put yourself in a situation you don’t want to be. This helps in reserving energy to invest only on people who really mattered and cared.
Cutting of relationships is brutal – when you identify a particular relation is getting toxic or having a negative impact on your life, its time to reevaluate. Its healthy to distance yourself but uprooting can become an emotional roller coaster ride. We can always maintain being in touch in social gatherings or common events.
Listen to your inner voice and follow your vibes.
Blessmesai 